*subby breakfast** and let's Clarify some stuff!
Nov 20, 2018
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fantastic go to I have not started
vlogging until now which it is 1:30 on
Monday afternoon I am currently at the
residence at Bucky were just hold on
hold on I am currently at the bank
really quick I got a do it let's see
what else did I do today I met up with
one of my subscribers you guys and we
went to breakfast it was such an amazing
thing I am so I definitely could say I
am blessed I am blessed with amazing
people in my life and she is such an
amazing person you all are amazing
actually and I wish I could meet up with
every single one of you guys
deposit she had to get back to work and
my honey had to get on to work as well
so I came home and picked up my chickens
and now we are gonna meet him over at
his yard with his car stuff thank you
hold on no more and anyways so here well
actually let me have my car honey so I
picked up the kids and then we went are
now we're on our way I ran to the bank
and now we are on our way to go pick up
Ollie from his watch because he had to
take a car over there and then we will
go pick up another car and take it to
the lot I believe and then I don't know
what else we have in store today but I
know we have those things to do but it
has been a fantastic start to my week
and I just hope and pray that the rest
of my week goes just as well
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what honey yeah so anyways and I am
running late on giving the vlog up you
guys today which is by the time you guys
are watching this it's not going to make
a difference because you guys will see
see this you'll already have seen yeah
but I'm running late I'm sorry between
going to breakfast coming home I'm happy
to leave right away I didn't get a
chance to get my vlog up yet but I am
working on it I promise I promise
um welcome to some more new subscribers
I see him join me overnight I am so
excited like I just every time I see the
numbers go up I'm just like so gene seen
it today cuz I got a new subscriber
notification on my phone I was like it
makes me so happy and so it made me feel
so good and gene I want to thank you so
much gene I just want to thank you for
today for this morning getting together
with me I really appreciate it you are
such an amazing woman and friend and I
cannot wait to see where our friendship
goes because I could definitely tell you
that you are wonderful amazing
friendship material and definite
you are I just can't say thank you
enough and how amazing you are
okay go pick up the rest of the trash
where the mess go put sissy shoes away
for mommy okay go put the shoes in the
shoe box
Omar hurry up okay pick up the other
shoe go put it in the shoe box go put it
away and then come back to mommy
you're helping clean good job that goes
under Rebecca's over there next to the
fan okay good job look at me look at me
thank you thank you you're supposed a
welcome I am hot my husband's got the
heater on like a tea like honey I like
the warmth but I'm feeling like I'm
moving to a tropical island my goodness
but he just likes to keep us all bum you
know keep us nice and toasty toasty
roasty anyways I just got done filming
look at this hot mess behind me look
look at this I started cleaning and then
I was like oh my gosh I forgot I took
craft corner Tuesday so I stopped really
quick and filmed that thang turned out
so pretty so you guys will have already
seen it but I'm by the time you see this
but yeah I love it
they turned out so cute anyways so I
just have been basically working on
getting my room put back
together because it is a literate hot
mess let's roll it
let Littrell it literally a hot mess
like really bad so I went ahead and took
it upon myself to start cleaning my room
well you guys I found ants ants I hate
those things I hate with a passion and I
don't know why they're coming up well I
think it's the season that they're
coming in because literally I have
nothing for them to come for like I I
mean I do bring stuff in here to eat but
not not that much and it always gets
clean like this room is clean every
night before I go to bed like that is
just that's not an exception I always
clean my room before I go to bed because
this is where I hang out a lot so I like
my space clean and so for me it's like
no I have to keep this from in this area
as clean as I can which I do so I don't
know but they were coming up through my
Vince so I don't know what they're doing
but they're trying to move in but any
little critter that doesn't pay rent in
this house ain't stayin so momma got the
big guns out ant killer and I went to
town I moved out that entire table took
everything off of it wiped it all down
vacuumed it back into that area sprayed
my carpet down where I think they are
coming from and then made sure that
there was absolutely nothing more oh you
little brat you think you're gonna be
slick nope I'm going to get you
and it's like once you clean them they
come back with a vengeance like they're
like ah ha ha you think you got me think
again think again woman that's what
they're doing
so anyways I've been on ant killer mode
this afternoon
because me and ants don't play I know I
don't like ants I hate them
I've always hated them they are my pet
peeve
if anybody knows me knows a me don't
like ants to me they're worse than mice
which God if I had a mouse in my house I
would flip a dime whoo I can't breathe
so anyways that's what I did this
afternoon was that then
mr. Omar decided after I told him no he
snuck into my pictures got Jeremiah's
school picture
so mr. Omar got in big timeout he had to
tell Big Brother the he was so sorry and
get in my breath I had to go back online
and thank God I saved the little slip
that they send with the picture because
I was able to go on and go ahead and
order another picture for him well it's
not for him I mean it is for him but
it's for me and I'm like wow when I seen
him do that I was like what are you
doing so yeah anyways I was not a happy
camper we will just say that
I think my kids are getting tired so
once at my door crying anyways so yeah I
kept pretty plenty busy this afternoon
when I came back so I didn't do a lot of
filming because I didn't have time I
just like once I seen the ants I was
like okay I'm done like I I had to get
that taken care of so that took me a
good hour and a half just to move
everything and clean underneath
everything and yeah that was that was
not fun and then I wanted to film my
craft corner Tuesday so that took me
about 45 minutes to an hour for that so
it's been you know it's been a busy busy
afternoon um but it's been a good
afternoon so anyways yeah um I did want
to address something make it all serious
now no in all seriousness I do need to
address something that was brought up in
a comment and I think it's fair enough
for me to be able to comment back
through my vlog because I don't know I
don't know who else may think this but I
got one comment and I want to address it
so it was brought to my attention that
in my yesterday's vlog so my anniversary
vlog that I was screaming at Jeremiah in
the car and that I treat him like a
nanny and that when we came home that I
made him change the kids I do want to
clarify that first of all I went back
and watched that video two times because
it really bothered me I thought
screaming at Jeremiah and I was really
thinking cuz the thing is is that we
don't scream at our kids I mean we will
raise our voice out our kids
yeah we will I'm not gonna sit here and
act like I'm some perfect parent that I
never raised my voice at my children
because I do and I do it to all three I
don't just do it to one and nine out of
ten when I'm yelling at my children it
is clearly because either a they're not
listening to me and they're clearly
ignoring me B because they're clear
across the house from one side of where
I not and I'm trying to get their
attention for some odd reason so I'll
yell for them and C is if they are just
playing out just being disobedient and
disrespectful I will raise my voice
because I'm human and that's what I do
now to scream at my children that is a
total different level and I don't
believe that I scream at my children
when I went back and I watched the video
because I really wanted to make sure
that I was understanding and that I was
getting where the person was making a
comment there was only one time in the
whole vlog that day that we were all in
the car at the same time and the only
time that I can see that there was any
comfort like any communication between
parents and children was when Ali was
asking espera in Arabic what was her
problem because she was in the backseat
screaming and what it was as she was
wanting her blood she wanted her booze
azza so she kicked her blanket off Maya
picked up her blanket to see if he could
help her find her Zaza
Ali was asking as for what was wrong and
so all he told Maya give her back her
blanket that was the only time that I
seen communication going on between any
of us parents to the kids there was no
screaming there was no nothing we
weren't mad at anybody I don't know
there was no punishment like there was
nothing he was we were trying to figure
out what was wrong with us well I wasn't
because I was walking to you guys
clearly but all he was trying to figure
out why Azhar was in the back seat
screaming and Maya was trying to help
Paulie because Oh Lee wasn't in the back
of the car so he was trying to help
Ollie grab whatever it was that Esther
wanted my son is a very
helpful child and I will say that hands
down he is one of my health one of the
most helpless children that I have ever
came across he has pride in his brother
and sister because he desired these
these kids just as much as we did he
would pray at night and ask God to
please give him a brother and a sister
or a brother
it was sibling that's what I think his
word was because at that time I was
doing childcare and there was a lot of
siblings coming in and he wanted to know
why he didn't have a brother or a sister
and we had told him you know we want to
give you a brother or sister but you're
just gonna have to pray to God and ask
him to give mommy and daddy a baby for
you to have a brother or sister because
you know we want that just as bad as you
did and he would pray for that every
night so when we found out that we were
expecting that was the most exciting
time for Jeremiah in his entire life I
think that was the most exciting time
for him and he did not miss one doctor's
appointment with Omar not one
appointment did he miss he went to every
appointment he even was at the
appointments when we found out that it
was a boy we found I mean he was with us
through the delivery of Omar I mean he
was at the hospital the entire time he
was by Omar side from the time he was
born he was down in the the recovery
room with me when all when Omar was in
the NICU he was right by my side in the
recovery room because he didn't want to
leave his baby brother side Maya carries
so much pride for his siblings that he
is a very very very protective and he
will do anything for them because he is
so protective of them and so it really
hurts me to feel like somebody feels
that my is being overused for the sake
of his brother and sister when that
would never ever ever cross our minds
nor would it cross Maya's mind when Ezra
was born that was just his pride and joy
I mean even to this day he treats her as
if she's a baby I mean that's just it he
you know he plays with her all the time
and he you know and why so I think the
point where the person got that Maya had
to change kids first of all Jeremiah has
never changed one of my children's
diapers the babies have never been
changed by Jeremiah that's not
Jeremiah's job and I would never expect
that from him so he has never changed a
diaper from any of the babies he has
helped dress the children because he has
wanted to help and he will ask can I get
on my dress or can I you know help us or
put on her shirt and that's totally fine
you know because he's asked I don't just
tell him go and dress your brother or
sister because it's not his job and I
would never expect him to do it and
really in reality it's not that I don't
trust him but I really don't think he
needs to be dressing his sister anyways
because we're trying to raise him and
his sister up that there's differences
between boys and girls and we you know
we respect that boundary of being a boy
and being a girl not that anything's
naughty or bad but it's just learning as
you know because SRS too and she'll be
three so she's starting to become
curious of her body parts and what she's
got downstairs and what she's got
upstairs and you know I mean she's just
a little girl and she's just figuring
these things out so I would never put my
son in a position to be dressing her at
all anyways just because of that and
with Omar at this point he you know
really Omar dresses himself for the most
part and if he needs help in Maya sees
him struggling he will he'll jump up and
he'll help him if I don't see it or if
I'm not being able to get up at that
very moment Maya will jump up and he
will help his brother not because again
he feels like he has to but he will help
his brother and sister in any way he can
but the part that I think that was
misunderstood was when I told Ezra to go
and get her galilea on which is pajama
like a nightie that is gala baya is
pajama basically I believe in Arabic
please correct me if I'm wrong husband
and so I had left the gala baya out in
the living room and I thought that she
was gonna get a like she was gonna
put it on because she knows how to put
those on well she didn't so Maya had
taken it and hid it on purpose just to
bug her because you know
Limor ivory as I've said before and so
he hid it so I told her go get it Maya
has your gala baya so that's where that
came from
no he did not put the gala bail on her
she in fact she came in here and I had
paused my video at that very moment and
I put it on her so I was the one that
put it on her Maya never touched her to
put that close on her nowhere in any
which way or form does Jeremiah get
treated any differently than the two
babies other than age different
responsibilities Maya started doing
chores at the age of four years old I
have raised my children up to have
chores at a very young age I don't
believe that children need to just sit
around the house and have the parents
doing everything that's not how I want
my children to be raised I want my
children to know that it takes a village
to have a home and that's just what it
is
everybody has duties in the home it
doesn't matter how old you are when Maya
started at four years old his first tour
was you go around you pick up all the
dirty laundry and you put him in their
baskets that's what his chore was and he
was so proud of himself because he did
his tour then it went from that to you
start taking the clothes to the laundry
room and you put it away now at his age
that he is he he really doesn't have
chores he pretty much just does as he
sees needs to be done if he sees that
the floor needs to be vacuumed he'll
vacuum the floor if he sees the dishes
and are in the dishwasher and they need
to be you know unloaded because the
dishes need to be reloaded he'll unload
him and he has reloaded the dishwasher
too but he knows he's not expected to do
that but for the main part his nightly
chore is he goes around he makes sure
that Omar and Ezra both help pick up
toys and with we put everything away
where it goes for the next day and they
everything has a home in our house so
everything gets put back word come from
and then he goes around the house and
vacuums the floors up and he makes sure
that his room is clean and that his bed
is not I don't expect him to ever make
his bed because I never was raised that
way
so he doesn't make his bed but you know
he makes sure that his blankets and
stuff were put up on his bed and he
makes sure that his whores vacuumed and
you know ready for the next day other
than that that's what Jeremiah does I
would never expect him to clean the
toilets you know he has mopped the
floors before but he likes doing that
because of the steam mop he thinks
that's cool watching the steam come up
off the floor so he does it more for fun
not because he's expected to but I would
never expect him to wash ours or scrub
toilets or things like that no I would
never expect that he has helped his dad
take garbage out you know but he's also
going on 11 years old and to me I
believe children need to have chores to
teach them responsibility and not just
that but to also show him as you get
older and you go to have your own family
it's you know you're just because you're
a boy doesn't mean you don't help around
the house I am NOT the only person that
needs to work around here your father
does work around here your father cleans
and cooks
he helps mommy when need be and you know
what Jeremiah has grown up to be the
same way and Omar Nasir rs4 helps with
laundry she puts all the laundry away as
I fold it she puts it away she knows
where all of them go she put some light
the only clothes that she does not put
away as her dad's that's because he has
a safety not door nozzle and she can't
get in that room so other than that she
happily puts all the clothes away as I'm
folding them
Omar picks up garbage around the floor
and make sure the toys are cleaned up
and his chore now is he goes around and
picks up dirty laundry and puts it into
the baskets because he'll be four in
February so my kids start having chores
at a very early age it's not just
Jeremiah it's all of my kids and I'm not
against or opposed to children having
chores and I'm sorry if there's some
people that don't agree with me and
that's okay you know we can agree to
disagree
everybody has their own opinions on
parenting but for me I believe that
children should have chores you know
it's not all about fun and games when
you're a child it's you know yeah you
can have fun and games but there's also
time that you need to be you know
you need to be real and have
responsibility and take life serious -
it's not all about having fun all the
time because life isn't always you know
a kickback relaxed game not at all so my
kids are taught very early on that you
will have chores and no you are not
treated like a nanny my child is not
babysit his siblings he may stay out in
the living room with the kids and watch
a movie or something while I'm either in
here vlogging or if I'm sitting in here
doing laundry or something because I lay
out all my clothes on my bed and fold it
all but my door is always open besides
when I'm vlogging sometimes I will shut
it and he sits out there and watches the
kids while I'm doing that but my child
is not a nanny I would never expect that
and I take that very personal because I
would never ever ever treat my children
that way and I would never want someone
to think that Loe of me that I would do
that to my child so I apologize to the
person that thought that they'd seen it
please go back and rewatch the video now
that I pointed those things out to you
because I feel like I feel like maybe
you miss completely understood my video
because never once did any of what you
say happen so I'm not calling you a liar
please don't think that I value I value
your words I value your friendship that
we've had I value you being here on my
channel and like I've said before
everybody is open to say as they please
but I also will respond back if I feel
that there's a need to because sometimes
I need to explain myself so that others
can understand where I'm coming from and
so I don't take it personal what you're
saying but what I feel is personal is
that someone would think that lo-ove me
and think that I would ever treat my
children that way because my children
are my life you know I have desired to
have these kids for so long that I would
never ever mistreat my children but I
will raise them up as grown men and
women of responsibility type of people
that will make a mark in this world in a
positive way and know what it takes to
have a home and a family
and responsibility
because that's just how life goes and
that's how I was raised and that's how
worries my children and I hope and pray
that they will raise their children just
the same so anyways enough of that I
just wanted to explain that to you guys
because I felt that it was a need to
just say that because I had it pointed
out to me and I just felt that I wanted
to share that with you
but anyways other than that I had a
really cool relaxing day I mean not
really relaxing because I really worked
my tail off in here but I actually still
need to finish because I still need to
vacuum my floors and put the rest of my
stuff my crafting stuff away before I
closed for the entire night but anyways
I am gonna close this vlog now I hope
you guys enjoy today and I will check in
with you guys tomorrow I don't know what
is on the agenda but I really don't but
I will check in with you guys tomorrow
for sure until then you guys sweet
dreams
bye bye
